One Day You’ll Miss This (But It’s Okay If Today You Don’t)

Hey there, fellow moms! 👋

I see you.

You’re in the thick of it. The endless feedings, the 2 a.m. wake-ups, the spit-up-stained shirts, the diaper blowouts that defy the laws of physics. Your coffee is cold, your hair is in a messy bun (again), and your to-do list is longer than the hours in the day.

People keep telling you: “Soak it in! You’ll miss this one day.”

And maybe you smile politely, but inside you’re thinking, "Really? I’m just trying to survive this moment."

Let me tell you a little secret from an old mom who’s been there: Yes, one day you’ll miss it. But it’s okay if today… you don’t.

The Seasons of Motherhood

Right now, you’re in the season of constant giving. Your body, your time, your sleep, your whole self and it feels like there’s nothing left for you. The days can be long, monotonous, and sometimes painfully lonely.

There will come a day, years from now, when you stumble across a tiny sock in the back of a drawer, or hear a baby giggle in a grocery store, and your chest will ache with a longing you didn’t expect. You’ll remember the weight of your baby asleep on your chest, the smell of their hair after a bath, the way their tiny hand grasped your finger.

You will miss those moments.

But right now? It’s okay to wish for a full night’s sleep. It’s okay to count the minutes until bedtime. Missing the sweetness later doesn’t mean you have to love every moment now.

You’re Still a Good Mom

Some days, you’ll feel like you’re rocking this mom thing. Other days, you’ll feel like you’re failing at everything. Here’s the truth: loving your child and loving the stage you’re in are two different things.

You can love your baby fiercely and still feel tired, touched out, or desperate for a break. That doesn’t make you ungrateful, it makes you human.

The Beauty of Looking Back

When my kids were small, I was certain the chaos would never end. Then one day, without fanfare, I realized my house was quiet. No toys on the floor. No sticky fingerprints on the fridge. No one asking for a snack every five minutes.

And I missed it. I know, right. You are probably thinking you will never be in your house by yourself again.

But I also remembered how overwhelming it was at the time and I felt compassion for my younger self. She was doing her best. She didn’t need to love every second. She just needed to keep showing up.

Give Yourself Permission

So here’s my advice, from one mom to another:

• Take pictures of the sweet moments, but don’t pressure yourself to make every moment sweet.

• Accept help when it’s offered.

• Don’t feel guilty for putting the baby down so you can shower, eat, or just breathe.

• Remember that it’s okay to not miss it right now.

Motherhood is made of a million moments, some you’ll long for later, and some you’ll gladly leave behind. Both kinds are part of your story.

One day, you’ll look back and see the beauty woven into the chaos. But today, you don’t have to pretend it’s all beautiful.

You’re doing enough.
You are enough.

And that’s what your kids will remember. 💛